You can provide a ceremony sequence of your own, or use any or part of my suggestions below. The order of events can be switched, new events added, or omitted.

Please use the following as a basic guideline to the various parts of a traditional wedding ceremony.

Prelude: This is the time when guests are arriving up until the mother of the bride is seated.

Processional: This is when the wedding party comes down the aisle, followed by the bride and her presenter. The guests are asked to stand as the bride is escorted down the aisle.

Giving away of Bride: (optional) I can ask the questions, “Who gives this woman to this man" ? The parents, escort or father would answer “I do” or “We do.”

OR

Another alternative is “Will family and friends present, support this couple with honesty and love as together they travel their journey in marriage?

Please respond:  "We will”

In a personalized ceremony:                           A Lei ceremony, an exchange of leis between the bride and groom.  And / or a presentation of leis to the parents of bride and groom.

Welcome to family and friends and opening remarks: (guests are seated) This is the greeting of the guests by Minister Kathy on behalf of the couple.

Opening Prayer by Minister Kathy: (optional) In a religious ceremony, a prayer to God asking for his blessing in the marriage or more popularly, a spiritual blessing that just asks the “universe” for blessings and opens the ceremony up to the acknowledgment of a greater force by offering gratitude for this day.

Minister address: This part is usually about 5-8 minutes where I speak directly to you to lead you into the moment of the vows and to remind you of the core reason as to why you are doing this.

Reading of a Poem or Bible Verse.

this information continued in the column to the right

Non-sectarian, non-denominational non-religious or religious orientation non-discriminatory



KATHY KAWANA, WEDDING MINISTER STATE OF HAWAII #2012-00236

 46-022 ALALOA ST. #203 KANEOHE, HAWAII 96744 PH: (808) 284-6352(808) 284-6352

{Please leave your name, phone number, and a brief message. 

It helps if I know the date, time, and place of your ceremony for scheduling purposes.

At the time you take out your license, however, you may leave this information off or the Wedding Performer can change it after the ceremony has taken place.}

KATHY & MATT    KUALOA RANCH, MOLI'I GARDEN

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Declaration of intent: This is where the two of you assert that you are going into the marriage by your own volition. Known as the “I do’s”.

Wedding Vows: Here you speak your words of commitment to each other through vows. You may write your own; or the wedding performer can use a standard set of vows. The wedding performer will present the vows and you will repeat the words.

In the Personalized Ceremony choice, you can choose from traditional vows, modified vows,  or you can write your own. You can repeat after me or speak from your heart.

Ring blessing:  (optional)

Ring Vows: This is the traditional exchanging of wedding rings, meant to be the physical representation of the vows you have said. With the Personalized Ceremony choice,  you can use the traditional vows, or choose your own wording, and repeat after me. It will always end with "With this ring I marry you”.

In a Personalized Ceremony:  Optional choices of Lighting Unity Candle , Soloist to sing, Couple prayer ,

At this time you may want to have a candle lighting ceremony to symbolize your merging, or you may choose to have a quiet time of prayer and reflection while a soloist sings. You may want to present lei’s to each other or to your parents.  In  Jewish oriented ceremony, you may wish to have the "breaking of the glass ".

You can have this time to do anything you want, or you can go straight to the pronouncement.

{For further information on the Lei Ceremony/ Unity Sand Ceremony / Unity Candle Lighting Ceremony, please go to the left information bar and clik on the appropriate page.}

Pronouncement: “By the authority vested in my by the state of Hawaii, I now pronounce you husband and wife”.

Kiss: Traditional kiss (please hold 10  seconds or more for great pictures!).

At this time, I usually will sign the license at the alter.  I have found that once the bride and groom go off with the photographer, I am left waiting for long periods of time.  However, if you have a coordinator for your ceremony, coordinators will usually have your presented to the guests, then there is the recessional, and the wedding party usually goes straight to a signing table to sign the license. (Witnesses are not utilized in the State of Hawaii.)

"Ladies and Gentlemen, I present to you Mr. & Mrs.___

OR

"Ladies and Gentlemen, John & Mary as a married couple" - this is used when the bride chooses to maintain her given name.